Motherhood: Raising Kids Close in Age

by Amber Bowie April 11, 2023

Raising children close in age can be challenging, but it can also be a wonderful experience. My daughters are 19 months apart and as they get older, it feels like the gap closes more and more. They're basically the same age! Big sister loves her role as protector, but little sister is the boss (at least she thinks she is ;). As we head into those pre-teen years, I find myself easily frustrated at the constant bickering and fighting over the smallest inconveniences. As we make our way through the battlefield, I am intentional on how I parent (or referee lol) these days.

Sibling Rivalry - Raising Kids Close in Age (Photos by Heidi Roland Photography)

Here are some tips that I have found helpful:

Establish routines: Establishing routines can help you create structure and predictability for your children. This can be especially important when you have children who are close in age, as it can help them feel secure and comfortable.
Encourage independence: Encouraging independence in your children can help them learn important life skills and become more self-sufficient. This can also help you manage your time more effectively.
Emphasize communication: Encouraging your children to communicate with each other and with you can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts. This can also help them develop strong relationships with each other.
Foster individuality: Even though your children are close in age, it's important to recognize and celebrate their individuality. Encourage each child to pursue their own interests and passions.
Create opportunities for one-on-one time: It can be easy for children who are close in age to feel like they are always competing for attention. Creating opportunities for one-on-one time with each child can help them feel valued and loved.
Don't forget self-care: It's important to take care of yourself, too. Make sure you take time to recharge and engage in activities that bring you joy.
Stay flexible: Finally, remember to stay flexible. Children can be unpredictable, and no two days are the same. Being flexible and adaptable can help you navigate the ups and downs of raising children close in age.

Just remember, these years don't last forever! We'll back it through! And my hope is that my girls will have a solid relationship that benefits them both as adults.

Photography Credit - Heidi Roland Photography